I AM NOT HAVING TWINS! I do not see twins as a possible "blessing". Eric and I are working hard enough to provide for ONE baby, let alone two. I think it is so interesting that people who don't have children, or those who don't have twins would think it would be SO AWESOME for me to have them. Of course it's awesome for me to have them.... YOU WOULDN'T HAVE THEM!
I guess I'm being a little stupid but I am so sick of people making comments about twins. Even when I say "no we're not, the Dr. checked" I hear stuff like "oh, they might be hiding". Take the hint people... I DON'T WANT TWINS! No one in mine and Eric's position would! I'm not saying that if it happened I wouldn't be okay with it, but honestly I'd probably cry first. And I wouldn't be happy at first. Sorry if that makes me a bad person.
The only people that think twins would be awesome are people who aren't at a risk for having them (because they are too old, young, etc.) and the rest of us really wouldn't enjoy that little "blessing" at first. Do people even realize the birth risks with twins? Miscarriage risks, bed rest, longer maternity leave and recovery from birth, premature births, birth defects, etc. Why would anyone want that for a first time mother? When you say that to someone who is pregnant, you aren't making a "cute" comment- you might be really making a comment that bugs them. Unless you are really close to the other person, you shouldn't say things like that. And even if you are close...keep the twin thing to a minimum.
When I first told my friend Tessa about my twin dream, she and I talked about it and I wasn't annoyed with her at all about the "twin" thing- because I brought it up to her and she didn't gush about how "awesome" that would be. If I don't bring it up to you- then I don't want to talk or think about it.
I could not agree with you more about the twin thing. I too would probably cry if I found out I was having twins...especially for a first time mother. Of course, you'd deal with it...you'd have no choice but to deal with it. It doesn't mean that's what you'd want or be extremely happy about. And I also apologize if that makes me sound like an awful person.
ReplyDeleteOh, Tessa. How I do love it when we are in complete agreeance. It is so nice to have a friend that understands me!!! :)
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